When you think of the holiday season, you likely conjure images of family and friends laughing, hugging, and spending quality time together to celebrate and rejuvenate. Another all too common image? Screaming at each other from across the dinner table, or holiday activities being derailed by simmering resentments and disagreements that blow up into something larger. Maybe it was some contentious global event, or a comment about someone’s appearance or life choices that kicked it off, but by the end, the dinner has turned from merry and bright to dour and sour. If you find yourself getting into family fights over the holidays, know that you’re not the only one—and that, with some planning ahead, every meal isn’t destined to leave an aftertaste of regret or anger.